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"If I cannot do great things, I can do small things in a great way" ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
The Partnership for Drug-Free Kids is looking for parents who
might be interested in their volunteer parent coach program. Cathy Taughinbaugh,
a certified Parent, Life and Recovery Coach, has been participating in this
program for over a year and has found it to be a powerful support system for
parents who are struggling with their child's drug or alcohol use. It's a great
way to give back and help other parents.
Looking for Experienced Parents to Help Support other Families
Facing Drug or Alcohol Problems with their Kids
Have you or someone you know had personal experience with a drug
or alcohol abusing child and want to use that experience to help other families
facing similar problems? We are looking for 8-10 experienced parents in the New
Orleans, Los Angeles, Boston, and Pittsburgh, PA areas who are interested in
getting free, specialized CRAFT ((Community Reinforcement and Family Training)
training to learn how to be a volunteer parent coach. Your first-hand
experience understanding the impact of drugs and alcohol on a family is an
incredibly valuable resource for other families. Wouldn't you have benefited
from someone listening and helping you who had walked in your shoes?
Please
respond to Cathy Taughinbaugh at contact@treatmenttalk.org
immediately to learn more.
The Partnership for Drug-Free Kids and the Center for Motivation and Change is
offering this CRAFT-Based Peer Support parent coach training in New Orleans,
Los Angeles, Boston, and Pittsburgh, PA this fall. Materials and training are
provided at no cost to you. You are not required or expected to have a
professional background in substance abuse, just your own personal experience.
After the training, you will become part of a national group of parent coaches
(Parent Support Network) who help and support the many parents who feel
hopeless, alone, and ashamed of their child's disease of addiction.
The
trainings in the 4 metro areas will be provided by an experienced local
psychologist, a specially trained parent coach 'mentor' and a professional
staff member from the Partnership. CRAFT has been proven to be effective in
helping families encourage their adolescent or young adult child toward healthy
change. This training will also enable you to be a more effective communicator
with your own children and family. Together we can learn to support each
other.
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Come celebrate with us! As part of our regular Wilkinsburg PSST meeting on Saturday, October 4th, we will also be announcing the Parent(s)
of The Year for Allegheny County.
Each year this award usually goes to the
PSST parent(s) who have used the parenting skills of PSST and who also have
given back to the PSST group in a substantial way.
The official award will be presented on
Thursday, October 9th at the annual county awards ceremony, which
begins at 6 PM (and lasts about 2 hours).
The event is held at the Family Court House, 550 Fifth Ave., Pittsburgh,
PA (the Old Allegheny County Jail) on the second floor. Please consider coming to the county awards ceremony to support our PSST
parent(s) receiving this award!
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In its 25th year, Recovery Month promotes
the societal benefits of prevention, treatment, and recovery for mental and
substance use disorders. This year’s theme, “Join the Voices for
Recovery: Speak Up, Reach Out,” encourages people to openly speak
up about mental and substance use disorders and the reality of recovery, and
promotes ways individuals can use to recognize behavioral health issues and
reach out for help. Recovery Month spreads the positive
message that behavioral health is essential to overall health, that prevention
works, treatment is effective and people can and do recover.
I could not imagine a life without alcohol. It was my
everything – until it ripped me apart. ~ Ellie
I am so thankful for each day I am sober and I would never
take back anything. I am the person I am today because of my experiences. I am
not ashamed to say I am in recovery…for life. ~ Meghan
Helping people find sobriety and community has filled a
hole in me that I was trying to fill with alcohol. My life is anything but
boring and best of all, it’s fun. ~ Amanda
Today my life isn’t about hiding and getting what I want, it
is about helping people, sharing my passion for recovery and hope! ~ Elizabeth
Recovery has given me the chance to become who I was always
meant to be, and to help others do the same. ~ Beth
One Day at a Time is used in all 12-step programs and even though it may be an
old and dusty bumper sticker slogan, I noticed this really works for me
especially when I choose to stay in the moment. ~ Pilar
For more information about National Recovery Month, click here.
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On Saturday, Sept 27, 2014 from
10am-2pm, the US Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA) will hold its 9th
national “Drug Take-Back Day” to enable patients, caregivers and pet owners to
properly dispose of unwanted prescription drugs and over-the-counter
medications at no cost.
Since launching the nationwide Drug
Take-Back Day effort in 2010, the DEA has collected more than 3.4 million
pounds (1,733 tons) of prescription medications.
Help to protect our young people (and
others) from overdoses and/or accidental ingestion of prescription medications. Help to keep our water supply safe – don’t flush
unwanted medications down the sink or toilet!
For a searchable list of collection sites nationwide, click here.
The following additional information
about the importance of proper disposal of unwanted prescription medications is
taken from the Pennsylvania Resources
Council website. The
mission of the PRC is to lead and
promote individual and collective actions to preserve Pennsylvania’s
environmental resources for each generation.
There are numerous reasons why
prescription and over-the-counter pharmaceuticals become unwanted or unneeded.
Many people stop taking drugs due to side-effects, their lack of effectiveness,
or quicker recovery periods than anticipated. And medications often reach their
expiration dates before they are completely used. But people are also being
prescribed and buying more drugs, per-person, than ever before in this country.
On a national level, estimates point to upwards of 200
million pounds of pharmaceutical waste being generated each
year. Over the past few years, pharmaceuticals and endocrine disruptors have
been detected in growing amounts in surface and drinking water sources around
the country. This issue has been increasingly covered in scientific literature
and the mainstream media. A series of Associated Press stories brought the
issue to the national spotlight in 2008.
In addition, prescription medications
have become the drug of choice for teens and other age groups. Each year, tens
of thousands of our children and adults die or become critically ill from
overdoses and/or accidental ingestion of prescription medications. Citizens,
scientists, political leaders, law enforcement, and health care professionals
are expressing concern about the proper disposal of pharmaceuticals; the old,
widely-touted advice to flush these materials is no longer acceptable. But few
practical and readily-available solutions currently exist for the safe disposal
of unwanted pharmaceuticals. As early as 2006, however, some waste management
boards and sanitary and wastewater authorities began offering pharmaceutical
collection events in states around the country including Maine, Washington,
Minnesota, and California among others.
President Obama signed
the "Secure and Responsible Drug Disposal Act of
2010" into law on October 12, 2010. The law removes a key barrier to
creating statewide programs that allow residents to safely return and dispose
of leftover medications. The legislation is intended to support the
creation of medication take-back options that reduce prescription
drug abuse and reduce the amount of pharmaceuticals getting into the
environment. Once the new law is implemented, providers of medication
take-back programs will have more options for where and how they set up
programs that accept controlled substances, such as OxyContin, Vicodin, and
Ritalin.
Currently, only law enforcement can
accept narcotics and other controlled substances from residents. The intent of
this federal law is to authorize other convenient community return locations –
like pharmacies – for secure disposal of controlled substances. Currently
pharmacy take-back programs (the legality of these vary from state–to-state)
around the country can only accept the return of over-the-counter medications
and prescription medications that are not controlled substances. However,
controlled substances make up about 11% of prescription drugs sold.
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Support Groups
Posted by:Jenn--Saturday, September 13, 2014
Why do I need a support group?
There is no need to stay isolated and alone with our fears. In fact, it is proven that when we reach out to others and share our experiences, we get stronger. When we are stronger, the addicts in our lives have a better chance of recovery.
When one person in the family is addicted to drugs and alcohol, we all get sick. And while we cannot control the choices our children make, we can control the choices we make. But how would we know what the choices are, what works and what doesn’t work, if we don’t participate in a forum where we can learn about what has worked for others? ~ Lauren Springer
For the rest of Lauren’s article, click here.
We are able to feel both supported and challenged in a group experience. As the group bonds and trust develops, people feel safer to speak honestly with each other. In groups we can both get and give. Both feel good. The experience of past loss, damage or trauma (whether from our family or from other relationships), may have profoundly affected our self- concept. A group can become a "family" that responds to us very differently, and can give us a corrective experience that impacts us emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically. We can also learn that conflict is part of being in relationship, and can be tolerated and worked through. We can't rationalize our negative feelings away, but I believe we can slowly heal as we learn to take in the love and acceptance that emerges in a group. ~ Wendy Fennell
For the rest of Wendy’s article, click here.
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NAMI
Southwestern Pennsylvania Announces New Class For Parents and Caregivers of
Children with Mental Health Disorders
Pittsburgh, Pa. -- NAMI Southwestern Pennsylvania is
offering, for the first time, the NAMI Basics Education Program
for parents and caregivers of children and adolescents with mental health
issues. This six-week series of classes will begin in Squirrel Hill on
Monday, Sept. 15 from 6:30 to 9 p.m. at the Children's Institute of
Pittsburgh.
Offered at no charge to participants, the course will cover information
about ADHD, Depression, Bipolar Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Oppositional
Defiant Disorder, Anxiety Disorders, Obsessive Compulsive Disorders,
Schizophrenia and Substance Use Disorders.
It will teach coping skills such
as handling crisis and relapse; basic information about medical use in the
treatment of mental illness in children; listening and communication
techniques; problem solving skills; and an overview of the mental health
and school systems' roles in treating children with mental health issues.
The course will be taught by two
trained teachers who are also parents of individuals who developed mental
illness as children.
"This course provides a
meaningful experience for parents and caregivers of children with mental
health issues," said Christine Michaels, executive director of NAMI
Southwestern Pennsylvania. "It introduces them to a community of
people with shared life experience, which is equally important as the
education and skills training they will receive in the class."
"We hope parents and other
caregivers will take advantage of this unique opportunity," Michaels
added.
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NAMI Southwestern Pennsylvania provides recovery focused
support, education and advocacy to individuals and families affected by
mental illness. More information is available at www.namiswpa.org or by calling (412)
366-3788.
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Speaking after Robin
Williams' recent death, his widow said, “ . . . it is our hope the focus will
not be on Robin's death, but on the countless moments of joy and laughter he
gave to millions.”
One of Williams’ many contributions
was his willingness to speak publicly about his battle with substance abuse. After 20 years of sobriety, in 2006 he sought treatment for alcoholism. During an
interview with Good Morning America, Williams explained
that falling back into alcohol abuse was "very gradual."
"It's the same voice thought that … you're standing at a precipice
and you look down, there's a voice and it's a little quiet voice that goes,
'Jump,'" Williams told Diane Sawyer. "The same voice that goes, 'Just
one.' … And the idea of just one for someone who has no tolerance for it,
that's not the possibility."
When asked why he relapsed, Robin answered: "It's
[addiction] — not caused by anything, it's just there … It waits. It lays
in wait for the time when you think, 'It's fine now, I'm OK.' Then, the next
thing you know, it's not OK. Then you realize, 'Where am I? I didn't realize I
was in Cleveland.'"
For the full article, click here.
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Detaching with Love
Posted by:Jenn--Monday, August 11, 2014
So far we are experiencing the ups and downs of
Pebbles’ and Dina's attempts with sobriety and 12 step programs. They recently
decided to live together with Dina's boyfriend, which we strongly advised
against. The results were quickly disastrous and the attempts to pull us in
were a struggle to avoid. They are both adults now, although even at age 20,
Pebbles is only an adult in legal terms.
Dina's maturity has been curtailed from years of drug abuse so that even
at 31, she is just a young teen at best.
We have told them so often how smart they are and how
skillful they can be, so we feel we need to give them the dignity to use their
skills to work this out, and use the resources available to get through this
explosion that has recently occurred. As two addicts who think they can live
with 12 step, picking and choosing what they want to use, and with strong
emotional ties with each other, their lives have become a head-on
collision.
It is so difficult not to run to the scene and pick up
the wounded, then take them home to nurse them back to health. But we have done
this so many times, only for them to regain their strength and then walk out to
begin their dangerous lifestyles again. It is so difficult to know that if
nothing changes, change does not occur. So it begins with us to be the change
and let them work this out. Having your two children fighting each other is
more heartbreaking then when they have their own separate issues; but it is
what it is. We just hope we all learn a lesson from this.
We are trying to use our PSST phrases to reply to them
when they call to report what the other is up to and to generally complain
about each other. We always dreamed of a loving family with sisters that are
close and supportive. But right now their addiction is controlling their
thoughts and behaviors, and we have to allow this to run its course. We are
powerless over what their relationship is and will be. They are angry that we
are not getting involved and picking sides. They feel we are being unfair.
Having supportive meetings to go to where there are
parents dealing with similar issues, along with the PSST blog, keeps me from
isolating and falling into a deep depression. Learning to find other interests
to keep me busy does not mean that I have abandoned my daughters, but allows
them to live their lives as I live mine.
When I first attended meetings, I was asked what I did
for fun. I hated that question. I wasn't having any fun. I was feeling
obligated to be in the trenches with my daughters. Slowly I have tried several
hobbies and interests until I found what worked for me. After being laid off
and having too much time on my hands, I have found a part time job where
training took up a lot of my focus. I
have friends through PSST and other groups to share good times at art
festivals, movies and baseball games.
The girls survived without my constant focus and I
think it is better for all of us that I take better care of myself. Maybe by
example they too will do the same, in their own time.
Betty
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Kathy Radigan, who is a blogger and published
author, as well as the mother of three children, explains why she wrote a
letter to her son about underage drinking:
So many parents take it as a
foregone conclusion that their kids will engage in any manner of risky behavior
. . . But, I want him to know where I
stand on engaging in behaviors that are at best risky and at worst illegal or
life threatening. I never want my son to
say that I wasn’t clear about my feelings . . .
Here is a quote from the letter to
her son:
Your father and I are so proud
of the man you are becoming. We love you so much that we don’t care if you hate
us. That’s our gift to you, we are your parents not your friends.
Click here for the full article.
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Did you
know that liquid nicotine, an e-liquid used in e-cigarettes and personal vaporizers,
is a powerful neurotoxin, unregulated by federal authorities?
Click here
for an article about liquid nicotine from the New York Times, “Selling a Poison
by the Barrel.”
Here are some excerpts
from the article:
Tiny amounts, whether ingested or absorbed through
the skin, can cause vomiting and seizures and even be lethal.
Toxicologists warn that e-liquids pose a
significant risk to public health, particularly to children, who may be drawn
to their bright colors and fragrant flavorings like cherry, chocolate and
bubble gum. A teaspoon of even highly diluted e-liquid can kill a small child.
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Here's a photo of our own Abby, rappelling down the
side of a building as part of the Shatterproof Challenge held in Pittsburgh in July. Shatterproof is an organization whose mission is to provide support for prevention, treatment and recovery associated with drug addiction.
Abby, you are our hero(ine)! Wonder if rappelling down a building is listed in the book "101 Natural Highs"?
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101 Natural Highs
Posted by:Jenn--Wednesday, July 16, 2014
Those of you who have a Kindle might be
interested in Cathy Taughinbaugh’s e-book “101 Natural Highs for an Amazing
Drug-Free Life”. It’s normally $2.99, but is currently on sale for $0.99. The
sale ends on Saturday, July 19th. Click here for more information about the book.
In the book are reminders and new ideas particularly targeted toward someone in recovery, who needs to fill the hole left by his/her
drug or alcohol use. This book also appears to be useful for those who are looking for ways to "take care of themselves," while dealing with a family member who has a drug or alcohol dependency.
Here
are some reviews from Amazon:
"101 Natural Highs is a treasure trove of
ideas that bring joy, meaning and enjoyment into anyone's life."
"Engaging,
not too long, and a reminder that there is so much a person can do without
drugs or alcohol."
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In 2008, our oldest son had been arrested for beating up a kid and taking his iPod, along with another boy. We were totally in shock. We never imagined he would break the law, especially in this manner. We already knew he was experimenting with weed and alcohol, and was disrespectful of us at home, but we had worked with 2 different family therapists and were very involved with school counselors and school social workers. We thought we were on top of things. At about the same time, our youngest son was starting his own rebellion with weed, skipping school, bad friends, disrespect.
Between the two of them, one or the other was sneaking out of windows at night to joy ride in my car without a license, coming home drunk or high, hanging out in unsafe neighborhoods with parents that would smoke weed with them, owning a gun, and lying constantly, and we never really knew all of this was going on until after the arrest. We were manipulated at every turn, but were so overwhelmed, we didn't realize it. When we did, we had no skills to deal with it. I was humiliated, felt judged, embarrassed, sad, frightened, anxious, and had no person I could confide in -- until I found PSST, on the internet.
I
called the number and Lloyd answered. He explained how the group worked, and
urged me to come to a meeting. I was very worried I would be the only
"normal" parent in the room. I was sure if parents went to this
group, their kids must really be "bad" and the parents probably
weren't very savvy, like I thought I was. I attended a meeting and it changed
my life.
I
noticed with a bit of surprise and relief that the parents were just like me.
My sons were just like their kids, and some were actually friends of my boys. I
was no longer ashamed, and I certainly didn't feel judged. It stopped me from
feeling helpless and gave me the tools to be pro-active and in control of my
home and myself. I learned these things in the most supportive atmosphere with
the best junk food. I knew everyone understood how I felt. I had gained the
greatest friends in the process. I was hooked, and I went to every meeting,
every location, every month for a solid 2 years.
It
was at PSST that I acquired my arsenal of weapons: "I'm not comfortable
with that", "Would you like to ask me again?", "I will not
keep your secrets", "You aren't going to like what I'm going to
say" and my personal favorite "YOU'RE RIGHT! I AGREE WITH YOU ABOUT
THAT!" I was shocked that they worked so well and so quickly with our
boys. Mel & I learned we were so afraid of their big reactions, that we
avoided confrontation at all costs. But the cost of doing nothing was huge.
We can't say
enough about how important PSST is for a parent in our position. I tell anyone
I meet with a similar issue to come to a meeting and read the blog. Role-plays
and insights from the group’s leaders are invaluable teaching tools. The advice
we received helped us out of limbo and into action. We had access to some of
the most empathetic, generous and truly caring mental health professionals we
have ever dealt with. We know of no other group or place that offers the help
to parents we received from PSST and we are forever grateful.
Our current status:
Our elder son Michael is living in
an apartment with his very lovely girlfriend, and continues to be enrolled in a
CCAC trade program. He is looking for a job (to supplement his landscaping job
which is very part time) and not having much success. We’ve tried to help with
advice and contacts. His response : “Thanks, I appreciate your help, but if you
help, it won’t be my accomplishment. I want to do this myself”. Wow.
Our younger son David just
graduated from high school and walked in commencement, which is something we
honestly didn’t know would happen until finals were over. He continues to work
on the line in a nice restaurant, getting more hours and gaining more
experience. He plans to go to culinary school, but we all agreed he should just
work for a while to be sure. His goal is to move into an apartment by the
spring of 2015. The worst thing I can say about him living at home is that he
doesn’t clean up after himself (his bedroom is scary) to my standards...but he
is otherwise pleasant and reasonable.
We are truly proud of both of
them.
I still use PSST-isms almost every
time I communicate with either boy, while continuing to work on myself; to not
enable, to not hover, to not sweat the small stuff, and to keep in mind that
they have their own identities and personalities and are not merely extensions
of us.
Max
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Our recent PSST meetings have had a recurring theme about creating and maintaining intimacy within the family. Click here for an article that defines intimacy and basic steps for achieving it, and here for an article that discusses how to cultivate ongoing relationships with your adult children.
As stated in the first article,
“Intimacy
is a dance. It deepens or is eroded by every interaction we have.
The good news is that every interaction you have is a chance to shift onto a
positive track and deepen your connection to your loved ones.”
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