tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8285812026509923711.post1078359108526952088..comments2023-05-25T08:46:57.049-05:00Comments on Parent Survival Skills Training (PSST): Better Late Than Never....Recap of 2/5/11 MeetingJennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05032767385348497272noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8285812026509923711.post-91219882191590914862011-02-16T17:02:11.179-05:002011-02-16T17:02:11.179-05:00Joy,
I know I speak for ALL PSST parents when I sa...Joy,<br />I know I speak for ALL PSST parents when I say...<br />BRAVO!! JOB WELL DONE!<br />Once you see these techniques actually get results, you can't go back!<br />Keep up the great work.<br />Best,<br />MaxMaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11596741234964077649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8285812026509923711.post-83075299653115834082011-02-12T19:44:37.141-05:002011-02-12T19:44:37.141-05:00Today, I got to try out "if you feel the need...Today, I got to try out "if you feel the need to ask me again" and the idea of 'agreeing with' my oppositional son. And it worked just like you described, Max! <br /><br />My son and I were in the car, alone. The topic of him not being able to use "just weed" while living in our home, came up. He said "I don't understand why I can't, as long as I don't use the other drugs". I replied "You can...just not while living in our home.". He said "Well, if it is bad for me, wouldn't you care if I did it when I didn't live at home". "Well, yes I said. I would care because I'm your mom but if you are living somewhere else, it would be a choice you are free to make". So then he asks "so why can't I at home?". "because you can't live at home and use drugs". "Well why not?". (Now I knew he wanted the *reason* why we decided that...not for us to justify!) so I said "because to live at home you can't use drugs". Well why not...and don't give me the same answer!!!". I said "It seems that you have the need to ask the question again, so feel free". He said, in total frustration "but you're just going to give me the same answer, so what's the point!!!!". He put his ear bud back in a proceeded to ignore me. I smiled to myself, thinking, he is upset because he realizes the power for that decision lies with us, as long as he is living in our home. This is "power" we lacked before...when we enabled his drug use. <br /><br />I see why you like the "parenting book"(How to Deal with your Acting-up Teenager)by Bayard and Bayard. These techniques are a perfect compliment to the ones offered in that book. In fact, I printed them off and put them in the back of that book (which is also on my nightstand). THANKS MAX!!!Joy Y.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8285812026509923711.post-50631770823072818282011-02-11T23:00:10.487-05:002011-02-11T23:00:10.487-05:00Max...this is BRILLIANT! I thought my Prodigal wa...Max...this is BRILLIANT! I thought my Prodigal was the poster child for ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder)but based what you wrote, I guess he should take a number (!). These techniques are perfect! I can't wait to try them out and see his face...that WTF face. The two I like the best (and can't wait to try) is "I have something to tell you that you won't like" because being oppositional he will definitely think "ha, she thinks I won't like it but I'll show her; I WILL be fine with it!". The other one I love is "if you at anytime get so angry that you feel the need to walk away, I won't be angry if you do". He will definitely want to PROVE that nothing I said bothered him. This is SO good. It gives us back all the power. THANKS!!!Joy Y.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8285812026509923711.post-74031604748728347542011-02-11T21:15:12.558-05:002011-02-11T21:15:12.558-05:00Thank you Max, for taking time out of your very bu...Thank you Max, for taking time out of your very busy schedule to give us this comprehensive recap of the role plays. <br />I especially like how you highlighted the power words with color. I find it helpful and think others will also.<br /><br />Max, you are Amazing with a capital A.Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02956567892356494093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8285812026509923711.post-13238195399167057922011-02-11T21:07:10.263-05:002011-02-11T21:07:10.263-05:00This was a great meeting. The role plays really h...This was a great meeting. The role plays really help to learn what to do and say in situations where usually emotions are running high and you can't think.<br />I found you all in December 2010 and don't feel so aloneWilmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15042114596744378019noreply@blogger.com