tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8285812026509923711.post6125491210497154281..comments2023-05-25T08:46:57.049-05:00Comments on Parent Survival Skills Training (PSST): A Look at A Home ContractJennhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05032767385348497272noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8285812026509923711.post-30207667836684712862011-01-01T00:41:39.263-05:002011-01-01T00:41:39.263-05:00Here is a contract we wrote for our son who is con...Here is a contract we wrote for our son who is contemplating returning home. We used contracts found here as inspiration. We decided to word this one in the "positive" rather than as a list of things he can't do. <br /><br /><br />Living at Home Agreement <br /><br />We want home to be a clean, sober and safe place for all of us. <br /><br />These are the two non-negotiable terms to you returning home and staying at home, once you do;<br /><br />1. Accept random drug & alcohol tests on 2 hours notice and provide consent for us to see the results<br />2. Make and attend weekly drug counselling appointments or attend weekly 12-step meetings or combination of both *<br /><br />* may go to every second week after 2-3 months, on advice of drug counsellor<br /><br />These are the basic house rules and we commit to acting in the same fair manner towards you;<br /><br />• Sober living; no use of street drugs, including marijuana. Drink alcohol in moderation (below level of intoxication).<br />• Have considerate and unselfish interaction with others <br />• Respect parents & siblings & respect their personal property. Ask if you want to use something; accepting the answer whether it is yes or no.<br />• Speak calmly and quietly. There is no reason for anyone (you or us) to raise our voice. If you disagree with something calmly express your opinion, respecting that the final decision rests with us in our home.<br />• Respect that quiet is wanted in all common areas of the house (use electric guitar, computer, music, Xbox, etc with headphones. <br />• Speak politely to and about others (say positive or neutral things, no criticism or ridicule) <br />• Clean up after yourself (bathroom, bedroom, kitchen, etc.)<br />• The doors will be locked at 11:20 p.m. on weeknights and 1 am on weekends. If you are home before that time, you can come in. If you can’t be home at that time; please let us know before 11 pm where you are staying overnight. <br />• Call to let us know what your plans are or if there is a change of plans <br />• Do your chores without needing to be reminded<br />• If you have a slip, just tell us. We can support you best if you are honest with us.Joy Y.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8285812026509923711.post-35950600007445514632010-12-21T23:56:12.462-05:002010-12-21T23:56:12.462-05:00Timing is important with contracts. There are opt...Timing is important with contracts. There are optimal times, e.g., just before discharge from inpatient, just before a teenager is allowed to move back home, or just before a Detention Hearing at Shuman. Copy and paste the link at the end of this post to go to a role-play where the mother missed the window of opportunity because she let her daughter come home first and thought that she would work out the details to the contract later. <br /><br />http://nevertheless-psst.blogspot.com/2009/02/role-plays-from-2-7-09-psst-designed-to.htmlLloyd Woodwardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08271738279677073849noreply@blogger.com